Restoring the Love in Your Marriage
Many times when we’ve been in a marriage relationship for a long period of time, things begin to come to the forefront and make it seem like love is no longer the focus. Children, stress on the job, financial issues and lost intimacy can all make what used to be a loving marriage turn into what seems to be a loveless marriage. If you feel like you have reached rock bottom, maybe restoring love back in your marriage would be a great place to start. Here are a few starting points to consider:
Hire babysitters If you have younger children in your house, consider making plans to go out with your spouse at least once a month to reconnect, just the two of you away from the children and the pressures of day-to-day life. Before there were kids, there was just the two of you, so regularly treat yourself to a night out on the town to remember why you fell in love in the first place.
Keep in touch
Let your spouse know you are thinking about them throughout the day with quick phone calls, emails or text messages. Knowing that your spouse is thinking about you is a great reminder of the love that is still there.
Do the little things again
Treating your spouse to little things such as flowers, unexpected gifts, a nice home-cooked dinner, or a personally delivered lunch when they are having a bad day can remind you both just what you mean to each other. When we get buried with the responsibilities of everyday life, we forget that small gestures can go a long way toward saying “I love you!”
Write it down
When was the last time you wrote your spouse a good old-fashioned love letter? Sometimes it is much easier for us to express the way we feel when it is written down. Reminisce about earlier times in your relationship and write about things you look forward to that could go a long way to restoring love in your marriage.
If you feel like you are “stuck” in a loveless marriage, have faith that there is always an answer. Are you willing to reach out for help? We want to help you restore the love in your marriage.