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How to Address a Cheating Spouse and Still Keep Your Marriage

Our culture has been inundated with tales of infidelity and cheating.  For example, there is a television show called Cheaters dedicated to catching your spouse in the act of cheating.  On the TV show, those who suspect their cheating husband or cheating wife can have them followed by private investigators who catch them in the act and thus give the person the ability to confront the the “cheater”.  Does it really need to come to such extreme measures? If you suspect signs of cheating in your spouse, there are ways to address the issue without having to resort to a camera crew tagging along.

But what are some of the signs of infidelity? There could be more secrecy on the part of your spouse over shared items such as cell phones and credit card statements. Regular work habits could turn into staying late and having odd overtime hours. Extra computer time could mean an Internet relationship is being formed. And the most important sign to trust? Your gut. If you feel there is something wrong, there very well may be. One of the biggest hurdles to overcome is admitting there is a potential problem and being willing to address it.

If you do indeed suspect infidelity in your marriage, what are some of the things that you could do to help salvage the relationship? Tackling and addressing the issue head on should be your number one priority, especially if there are children involved in the relationship. And you should never be ashamed or embarrassed to seek outside help. Sometimes it takes a third-party perspective to help you and your spouse gain insight into what you can do and the steps necessary to put the relationship back together and regain trust. Gaining trust after infidelity is a tough step to take, but essential to the overall health of the marriage.

You shouldn’t have to resort to a television show about cheaters for you to confront the situation. If you are willing to embark upon the path to saving your marriage from infidelity issues, that is a huge step in the right direction.